What is sex?
Sex is a progression of activities involving any type of genital contact or sexual stimulation between two persons that may lead to mutual masturbation, oral sex, sexual intercourse and/or anal sex. Done
Sexual abstinence means voluntarily choosing not to engage in sexual activity until marriage. Abstinence is the only approach to sexual activity before marriage that protects completely against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and unplanned pregnancy. Even if person has been sexually active in the past, it’s never too late to start over again and to save sex for marriage. Most teens surveyed who have been sexually active say that the wish they would have waited.
Many teens have sex and use protection to prevent pregnancy. But because they do not always use it consistently or correctly, many get pregnant anyway. About one of every three girls in the United States gets pregnant at least once before age 20. Today, every 31 seconds, a teen girl aged 15-19 will become pregnant. For those who become teen parents — life changes for them. Most teenage girls who get pregnant do not graduate high school until age 30.
And guys, don't think you're getting off easy. Even if you are not directly taking care of the child, as a father you are still financially responsible for child support, even if you were a teenager when you caused the pregnancy and even if you move to another state or if you join the military. Most states require both parents' names on a birth certificate, and if you don't offer child support, they will garnish your wages and take money from your paychecks for each baby you father. The only way to be certain you will not become pregnant or get someone pregnant is to abstain from sexual activity. No birth control method other than abstinence is 100% effective.
“Are condoms really effective?”
Let's just stick with the facts from the Center for Disease Control (CDC):
The surest way to avoid transmission of sexually transmitted diseases is to abstain from sexual intercourse, or to be in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship with a partner who has been tested and you know is uninfected.
For persons whose sexual behaviors place them at risk for STDs, correct and consistent use of the male latex condom can reduce the risk of STD transmission. However, no protective method is 100 percent effective, and condom use cannot guarantee absolute protection against any STD. Furthermore, condoms lubricated with spermicides are no more effective than other lubricated condoms in protecting against the transmission of HIV and other STDs.
In order to achieve the protective effect of condoms, they must be used correctly and consistently. Incorrect use can lead to condom slippage or breakage, thus diminishing their protective effect. Inconsistent use, e.g., failure to use condoms with every act of intercourse, can lead to STD transmission because transmission can occur with a single act of intercourse.
While condom use has been associated with a lower risk of cervical cancer, the use of condoms should not be a substitute for routine screening with Pap smears to detect and prevent cervical cancer.
Drugs and Alcohol
Making a decision about sex is never easy. There are many things that influence your decision... If you choose to use alcohol and other drugs, your ability to make any decisions is affected. Teens who drink alcohol and use drugs are more likely to be sexually active. When teens were asked in a survey whether they were drinking or using drugs the last time they had sex, 25 percent of them said "yes." Teens who drink are seven times more likely than teens who don't drink to have had sex. And teens who use drugs are five times more likely to have had sex. To keep yourself safe, remember the following:
- If your friends are pushing you to use drugs and alcohol, they aren't good friends.
- If your partner pushes you to use drugs and alcohol, this is not a healthy relationship. Remember, you have a right to make your own choices.
- If you are drunk or stoned, you might have sex and put yourself at risk of unintended pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted diseases. If you have sex, or you can't remember what happened, get tested for STDs.
- Drugs and alcohol affect your decision making. You may make decisions to do things when you are drunk or stoned that you would never do if you were sober. People might take advantage of you when you are drunk or stoned. Sex without your permission is called sexual assault. If you think you have been assaulted, call your local sexual assault centre or the police.
- Sharing needles or other drug equipment can give you STDs such as HIV and Hepatitis B.
- Tobacco, alcohol and other drugs can hurt an unborn fetus. If you are pregnant, don't use them. If you are addicted, seek help.
- If you do use alcohol and other drugs, set limits for yourself and have someone with you that will help you stick to those limits.
- Take care of yourself. Watch out for your friends who may be putting themselves at risk.
- Protect yourself from date rape drugs. Don't drink anything you didn't open yourself. Never leave a drink unattended. Don't drink anything that looks or tastes odd.
- For more information on the effects alcohol and drugs can cause in your life try alcoholmd.com
- Information on Drug Abuse and what types there are.